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Rick Lewis's avatar

Jack, your story demonstrates the highest use of personal storytelling. Taking the time to look, frame by frame, thought by thought at our behavior, conduct and motivation is no less than watching game tape from your most worthy opponents. The best moves of our enemy, "autopilot" life, as you say, happen too quickly to respond well in the moment without preparation and study. When you map out the playbook of the opposition you stand a chance of responding well in a moment that counts. I'm going to share your story with our writing group, because it's a shining example of personal storytelling that lifts all boats. Thank you for this.

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Heather King's avatar

Thank you for sharing this humbling story.

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Rob Dixon's avatar

Interesting in that moment in that place he chose you. Interesting……

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Neural Foundry's avatar

Brillaint reflection on the gap between outcome and motivation. That handshake rejection is brutal honesty at its best, capturing how autopilot can still get us through the motions while missing the entire human connection. I've had similiar moments where i realized helping someone felt more like checking a box than acutally seeing them as a person. The distinction matters because, like you say, one leaves us with meaning and ownership of our life, the other just eats up time without us really being there at all.

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Ibra's avatar

Amazing read, even better considering the man asked for food instead of money. The aim of his necessity was in the right place, at least at that moment.

I definitely understand the desire of full intentionality. Although, it’s important to understand where your principles on matters like these stand. It’s easier to build intentionality through charity with the proper boundaries.

I’m curious to see how this journey goes for you. I look forward to reading future posts on this topic.

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Jeremy's avatar

Brilliant. So much respect for you taking such a critical look at your intentions. And even if you're not celebrating yourself for this act, it was generous and kind and beautiful, even if it felt like it didn't come from *exactly* the right place.

Also, inspired by you bringing this level of self-scrutiny and intentionality to the mat, the office, and your relationships.

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Tom Pendergast's avatar

Nice Jack, thanks for sharing

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Tom Donaldson's avatar

Another excellent observation of our world. Thank you for the reminder.

Being seen is the greatest gift we can give to others.

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