Jack, so may things to love about this piece of yours. Not just the message, but the picture of you getting your blue belt, AND the tattoo on your arm. Wow, so very cool.
As for self-assuredness and confidence, what strikes me, is that self-assuredness is more closely aligned with the statement, “strong beliefs, loosely held” which, I think, integrates conviction, with openness.
For example, I can be confident about a belief I have, or confident in the solution to a problem I’m trying to solve, while remaining open to inputs that might have me change my mind. Confidence, or rather over-confidence, seems to embody some attachment to my belief, which can close off new inputs. And as you point out – that’s probably because with confidence, at some level, ego is too active in running the show.
Thank you for helping me see something anew and sharpen my understanding in this space, Jack.
James, always so good to hear from you. Indeed! It's been a busy few weeks. There was one more cool accomplishment in there that I can't post about, but perhaps we could talk about if we find time to call soon :)
"Strong beliefs, loosely held" is so good. My issue (as my girlfriend will tell you) is that I (or rather, my ego) tend to strongly hold strong beliefs. I never before saw the connection between this motto and confidence, but it makes a lot of sense. The confident person is not so wrapped up in their ego that they can listen to others, synthesize ideas for themselves, and admit when they are wrong.
Thank you James for reading and sharing your bountiful wisdom, as always.
Aw man, Jack. I resonate with this too. I once heard Joe Hudson define confidence as a measure of "how connected you are with yourself." I think it's very similar to how you described it here.
It's very interesting. The time I felt least confident was when I explored a new career and had to let go of ambition. It makes a lot of sense because I was reshaping my identity at the time, and only now do I feel more self-assured. So nice to see I'm not alone in all this, grateful that you shared your thoughts.
Great to hear from you Linart and thank you so much for reading! It's a good point you raise. When we want to learn, grow or try something new, we have to allow ourselves to look silly and fail, which naturally reduces our self-confidence in the short-term. But long-term confidence requires those short-term dips that teach grit, hard work, etc. and enable you to acquire skills and knowledge that fuel long-term confidence.
Jack, so may things to love about this piece of yours. Not just the message, but the picture of you getting your blue belt, AND the tattoo on your arm. Wow, so very cool.
As for self-assuredness and confidence, what strikes me, is that self-assuredness is more closely aligned with the statement, “strong beliefs, loosely held” which, I think, integrates conviction, with openness.
For example, I can be confident about a belief I have, or confident in the solution to a problem I’m trying to solve, while remaining open to inputs that might have me change my mind. Confidence, or rather over-confidence, seems to embody some attachment to my belief, which can close off new inputs. And as you point out – that’s probably because with confidence, at some level, ego is too active in running the show.
Thank you for helping me see something anew and sharpen my understanding in this space, Jack.
James, always so good to hear from you. Indeed! It's been a busy few weeks. There was one more cool accomplishment in there that I can't post about, but perhaps we could talk about if we find time to call soon :)
"Strong beliefs, loosely held" is so good. My issue (as my girlfriend will tell you) is that I (or rather, my ego) tend to strongly hold strong beliefs. I never before saw the connection between this motto and confidence, but it makes a lot of sense. The confident person is not so wrapped up in their ego that they can listen to others, synthesize ideas for themselves, and admit when they are wrong.
Thank you James for reading and sharing your bountiful wisdom, as always.
Aw man, Jack. I resonate with this too. I once heard Joe Hudson define confidence as a measure of "how connected you are with yourself." I think it's very similar to how you described it here.
It's very interesting. The time I felt least confident was when I explored a new career and had to let go of ambition. It makes a lot of sense because I was reshaping my identity at the time, and only now do I feel more self-assured. So nice to see I'm not alone in all this, grateful that you shared your thoughts.
Great to hear from you Linart and thank you so much for reading! It's a good point you raise. When we want to learn, grow or try something new, we have to allow ourselves to look silly and fail, which naturally reduces our self-confidence in the short-term. But long-term confidence requires those short-term dips that teach grit, hard work, etc. and enable you to acquire skills and knowledge that fuel long-term confidence.
mmm so good, well said - and yes, glad to see you still writing too Jack!!
Nice sleeve!
Thanks man! Hope you're doing well.